As women, we often nurture and care for others while neglecting our own well-being. Tonomoshia is a secret stash that is just for you. It’s money you don’t have to be accountable for, money you don’t have to share, money nobody knows about but you. It is of particular importance for women in abusive relationships, but I think all women should have it. One woman I know refers to it as f&%k you money and her mom calls it F-U money. Charles Givens recommended this kind of stash a long time ago in his book, “Wealth Without Risk” when he advocated an account he called an “independence account” or “freedom account”. The goal was $10,000 you would never touch. It would allow you to always know that you had money in the bank, the pyschological effect of which cannot be overestimated. The feeling of having money in the bank can make you more confident in other parts of your life. It’s very freeing. No one owns you and you know you can depend on yourself, if need be. Start building your independence. Depend on yourself. You will always be there.Tumblr (3.0; @tonomoshia)http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/<p> <img style="border: 0;" src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3416/3607695489_da2ddc745a.jpg"/><small style="display:block"> <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/26693938@N08/3607695489" target="_blank">Scarlet Lily Beetle</a> </small> </p> <p> Red, because it makes me feel HOT! To me, red is the color of passion, spontaneity, warmth, aliveness, and love — all the things I want more of in life! </p> <p style="clear:both; margin: 0; padding: 0; margin-top:10px; font-size: 13px; font-family: Georgia; line-height: 24px;" class="plinky_badge_rid:18085"> <a href="http://www.plinky.com/mini/reroute/18085" target="_blank"> <img src="http://www.plinky.com/proxy/badge?id=18085" style="border: 0; padding-right: 4px; vertical-align: middle;" alt="" title=""/></a> </p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/243804972http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/243804972Sat, 14 Nov 2009 12:51:51 -0500<a href="http://www.monopolycitystreets.com">Google's Monopoly City Streets</a>: <p>Can’t wait to play this!</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/185389392http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/185389392Fri, 11 Sep 2009 12:02:00 -0400<a href="http://lifehacker.com/5338028/top-10-tricks-for-creatively-hiding-your-stuff?skyline=true&s=i">Top 10 Tricks for Creatively Hiding Your Stuff - Security - Lifehacker</a>: <p>Awesome. Keep stashing  … and keep it hidden.</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/163913377http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/163913377Sat, 15 Aug 2009 23:41:06 -0400“Never cease loving a person, and never give up hope for him, for even the prodigal son who had fallen most low, could still be saved; the bitterest enemy and also he who was your friend could again be your friend; love that has grown cold can kindle.”<br/><br/> - <em>Soren Kierkegaard (via <a href="http://reluctantbuddha.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">reluctantbuddha</a>)</em>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/152909730http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/152909730Fri, 31 Jul 2009 07:51:57 -0400<img src="http://14.media.tumblr.com/cJM1f1tUiqjheuzuTjRFRqjuo1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p><a href="http://reluctantbuddha.tumblr.com/post/152460101/via-iwano" target="_blank">reluctantbuddha</a>:</p> <blockquote>(via <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/iwano" target="_blank">Iwano</a>)</blockquote>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/152909442http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/152909442Fri, 31 Jul 2009 07:50:51 -0400<p>feeling good, connected to the world and love and all that! life is good!</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/151964660http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/151964660Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:13:07 -0400<p>Billie Holiday … Good medicine for what ails me.</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/151338842http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/151338842Wed, 29 Jul 2009 00:22:10 -0400<p>You’re not saving the species tonight or any other night!</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/150930631http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/150930631Tue, 28 Jul 2009 12:21:19 -0400<p>Some asshole just tried to mug me. Pissed.</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/149781339http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/149781339Sun, 26 Jul 2009 21:05:46 -0400<p>I have seen nightclubs smaller than this bouncehouse!</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/140300926http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/140300926Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:12:19 -0400<p>Happy birthday to Nikola Tesla!</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/139037234http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/139037234Fri, 10 Jul 2009 09:37:32 -0400<p>Today is my wedding anniversary.</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/136849319http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/136849319Tue, 07 Jul 2009 00:19:41 -0400<a href="http://www.nike.com/nikeos/p/nikewomen/en_US/training">Nike Women - Training - US</a>: <p>Expert advice, videos and training programs designed to help you get to your goal.</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/119155807http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/119155807Sat, 06 Jun 2009 19:33:01 -0400<p>Doing the cha cha.</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/119039987http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/119039987Sat, 06 Jun 2009 13:29:18 -0400<p>Watching Blade Runner director’s cut. Which version do you think is best?</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/118974628http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/118974628Sat, 06 Jun 2009 10:41:25 -0400<a href="http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2009/05/31/amazons-25-software-bestsellers-and-their-free-equivalents/">The Simple Dollar » Amazon’s 25 Software Bestsellers - And Their Free Equivalents</a>: <p>A personal finance blog focusing on ordinary people dealing with unprecedented levels of debt.</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/116477822http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/116477822Mon, 01 Jun 2009 19:28:06 -0400<p>Back home after a week out of town and offline. Had a great time. Family is everything!</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/113963945http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/113963945Wed, 27 May 2009 18:16:54 -0400<a href="http://friendfeed.com/">http://www.netbanker.com/</a>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/104841412http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/104841412Thu, 07 May 2009 22:23:18 -0400<a href="http://how2dostuff.blogspot.com/2006/02/how-to-make-secret-hollow-book.html">How To Make a Secret Hollow Book: - How To Do Stuff</a>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/102600832http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/102600832Sat, 02 May 2009 08:41:37 -0400<a href="http://twitter.com/suzeormanshow/">Suze Orman (SuzeOrmanShow) on Twitter</a>: <p>Twitter is a free social messaging utility for staying connected in real-time</p>http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/99812151http://tonomoshia.tumblr.com/post/99812151Fri, 24 Apr 2009 19:06:39 -0400