I see it all perfectly; there are two possible situations—one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it—you will regret both.
Soren Kierkegaard (via reluctantbuddha)
reluctantbuddha
As women, we often nurture and care for others while neglecting our own well-being. Tonomoshia is a secret stash that is just for you. It's money you don't have to be accountable for, money you don't have to share, money nobody knows about but you. It is of particular importance for women in abusive relationships, but I think all women should have it. One woman I know refers to it as f&%k you money and her mom calls it F-U money. Charles Givens recommended this kind of stash a long time ago in his book, "Wealth Without Risk" when he advocated an account he called an "independence account" or "freedom account". The goal was $10,000 you would never touch. It would allow you to always know that you had money in the bank, the pyschological effect of which cannot be overestimated. The feeling of having money in the bank can make you more confident in other parts of your life. It's very freeing. No one owns you and you know you can depend on yourself, if need be. Start building your independence. Depend on yourself. You will always be there.
